When I saw this book sitting on my sister-in-law’s coffee table my immediate thought was, “That’s me!” My sister-in-law clearly agrees but she immediately loaned me the book.
Being an introvert serves me well as a mom in a lot of ways but it does make other things hard. My interpersonal energy is often expended on taking care of two small and demanding humans. I don’t always have much left over for spending time with friends or even my husband. Yet my emotional and social needs are not really met by a two-year-old and a four-year-old.
In easy-to-read prose and personal stories, Martin encourages introverted moms to embrace their natural tendencies. To use their strengths to build up their homes and to push their boundaries in ways that work for them. She weaves in quotes and stories from some of her favourite writers (also introverts) – L.M. Montgomery, Louisa May Alcott, Jane Austen, and Laura Ingalls Wilder.
Introversion is a broad spectrum and Martin acknowledges this. (Quiet by Susan Cain is a great book to read if you want to learn more about introverts.) She encourages her reader to figure out what they need to recharge and what they need to be both the best version of themselves and the best mom to the kids they have. She includes a wide variety of examples and has a very helpful list of ways to recharge or take a break based on how much time you might have. I appreciate the reminder that sometimes even a two minute break can help, especially if that’s all you can squeeze in.
I feel fortunate in that I’m married to an introvert and I’m raising at least one introvert so it feels natural to our family to schedule lots of quiet time at home. In fact, in the last year or so, we have worked to expand Pearl’s natural borders a little broader because she is quite happy to stay at home and play by herself every day! I hope to honour that aspect of her personality while also encouraging her to try new things and interact with her peers. It’s been a good reminder to do the same for myself.
The contents of this book aren’t groundbreaking but they could potentially be very encouraging to a mom struggling with being overwhelmed in her day-to-day life. The book does have a Christian perspective, but I would describe it as more spiritual than really Christian. If you’re an introverted mom, this book might be for you.